Sexual psychology – understanding, exploring and changing
Sexuality is shaped by relationships, the body, culture, and life experience. Here, you are offered support in understanding patterns, exploring needs, and developing a freer and more sustainable relationship to sexuality – without prescriptions and without shame.
Sexuality is both simple and complex. Simple, because it is a fundamental part of being human. Complex, because it is influenced by our experiences, our relationships, our fears, our culture, and our ideas about how we “should” be. Many people carry internalised images of what is normal, what is allowed to be desired, and what should be hidden. These images are often narrow, and they can be heavy to carry.
Sexual difficulties are therefore rarely only about the body. They often concern meaning, identity, freedom, responsibility, and relationships. They touch on what is difficult to express out loud. Very often, it is shame rather than desire that becomes the real obstacle.
In my work, I approach sexuality as human, flexible, and multifaceted. I meet people with different experiences, needs, and expressions, and I work without moral judgement. At the same time, I take sexuality seriously as an area where we can both grow and lose our way. Freedom tends to work best when it is supported by clarity, consideration, and respect – toward oneself as well as toward others.
My perspective is liberal in the sense that variation is allowed. It is also existential, in that sexuality involves choice, responsibility, identity, and the possibility of living in alignment with oneself.
Questions people often want to work with
Sexuality and the body
- Desire, reduced desire, or significant differences in sexual needs
- Erection, ejaculation, pain, or difficulties with arousal
- Sexual changes following illness, stress, or medication
- Shame, anxiety, or insecurity related to sexuality
- Pornography – when use raises concerns, affects relationships, or creates patterns that no longer feel free
Relationships and intimacy
- Jealousy, infidelity, and lack of emotional security
- Recurring patterns that create distance
- Finding a way back to closeness after conflict
- Insecurity in new relationships or after separation
Alternative relationship forms
- Non-monogamy, open relationships, and polyamorous constellations
- The balance between individual needs and shared agreements
- Cultural differences related to love, family, and expectations
Kink, bdsm and power dynamics
- Exploration of preferences, fantasies, or practices
- Power dynamics, role distribution, and safety in ways that are consensual, clear, and sustainable over time
- Understanding personal boundaries and needs in contexts where freedom and care must coexist
Identity and expression
- Gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation
- Uncertainty around labels, belonging, or norms
- A sense of being “wrong,” “too much,” or “different”
Experience working with sex work and related contexts
In addition to the areas listed above, I have clinical experience working with people who have been involved in sex work and related commercial contexts in various ways, including sellers, buyers, performers in adult or commercial sexual content, and individuals involved in professional power-exchange contexts.
Common themes in this work may include boundaries, autonomy, shame, power, relationships, identity, safety, and long-term psychological well-being. This may include both ongoing relational dynamics and more clearly defined professional arrangements. The work is grounded in a professional, non-moralising psychological perspective, with careful attention to the individual’s life situation and personal choices.
Working individually or as a couple
Sessions can take place individually or together as a couple. Individual work is often appropriate when the focus is on understanding one’s own desires, fears, patterns, or internal conflicts. Couple sessions are suitable when difficulties arise in the interaction itself – how communication functions, how closeness is created, how distance develops, and how both partners respond to it.
Sometimes the format of the work needs to be adjusted over time. Individual therapy and couple therapy, however, are different frameworks. Allowing individual work to transition into full couple therapy is not always straightforward, as the dynamic may then be experienced as unbalanced.
In some cases, it may instead be meaningful for a partner to participate in one or a few sessions. This can serve as a bridge, for example to clarify perspectives, communication, or boundaries, without the work becoming couple therapy in the formal sense.
How I work
I offer a conversational setting where psychology, behavioural change, cultural understanding, and knowledge of the body are integrated. The tone is open, direct, and non-judgemental. Sessions may be exploratory, reflective, or practically oriented, depending on your needs.
Sexuality is an area that easily becomes emotionally charged. In conversation, it should instead be clarified, de-dramatised, and approached as something fundamentally human. The aim is to create a space where you can speak about what is not spoken about elsewhere, without having to conform to any predefined template.
Who is this for?
For those who want to understand themselves more deeply.
For couples who feel stuck.
For people living in relationship forms that do not always fit conventional language.
For those who wish to explore their sexuality without shame – or to heal something that feels broken.
Sexual psychological work is not a separate branch of psychotherapy. It involves the same fundamental questions, but in a field where freedom and vulnerability are particularly close to one another.